Welcome to today’s daily kōrero!
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Anyway, it’s just a chance to talk about your day, what you have planned, what you have done, etc.
So, how’s it going?
Yeah I think they might exist. Personality and environment are important but I think to some extent we choose to feed some traits in ourselves more than others.
I once had a disturbing conversation with a colleague in which he seriously asserted that doing evil was more interesting and rewarding than doing good. A few months later he turned out to be a manipulative serial sexual harasser who was threatening to ruin young women’s careers.
To me, that’s an example of a genuinely bad person. I mean he pretty obviously had APD but he was also actively and consciously choosing to lean into it.
You have to wonder what motivates those people.
Idk on one hand I can’t understand it at all but on the other hand from my reading around the subject since then, I think what motivates them are some of the motivations we might have too, like a desire to feel special, a desire to experience a thrill, a desire to have power and agency in our lives.
Only with them the channels they choose to achieve it are different and their lack of empathy puts a lot of options on the table for them that are just unthinkable to us.
After my run in with that guy I read up on APD and con artists so I would be able to spot it sooner in future. There are plenty of people with APD who don’t choose to nurture that side of themselves.