I’ve felt like this before for sure. Best advice I can offer is to try your best to include your kids in your hobbies. Sure if your hobbies were doing drugs or getting blackout drunk at the clubs, then you’ll probably not be able to bring your kids. Though if you like golf/woodworking/video games… something like that, pack up the diapers and bottles or snacks or whatever and bring them with you. Babies sleep proportionately to how much formula they drink and older kids will eat up any menial task you give them to “help”.
Give it a try. It might not be the exact experience you had before, but you may be pleasantly surprised.
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