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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/FuckingEmbaressment on 2023-08-01 23:59:58.

My youngest son made a new friend last year, and now that it’s summer they’ve been having playdates. Her parents both work, so she usually comes over here. She’s Hispanic and she sometimes says things in Spanish. Whenever she says anything in Spanish my husband will ask her what she said, even if she’s in an entirely different room.

Like yesterday, I was in the living room watching them play, and my husband was in the kitchen. She said something in Spanish, and he came out of the kitchen and asked her to repeat herself and explain the translation. I felt so embarrassed. She looked confused, and it was just so awkward. She wasn’t talking to him, why does it matter?

I told him today that I would like him to stop, and he looked at me like I was crazy. He said we should know what the kids are saying in our house. I said it was embarrassing, and he asked me if I was seriously worried about what a twelve year old thought of us? I came away from the conversation feeling really stupid.

I know it’s a harmless question, and I shouldn’t make such a big deal about it, but I often feel embarrassed in awkward situations, and it always feels so awkward when he does this. Am I the asshole for asking him to stop just because I’m embarrassed even though he did nothing wrong?