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  • Yeah… I’m pretty freaking queer and straight people being in gay bars doesn’t bother me at all. If you have issues that make it scary to be around straight folks that’s your problem, and you need to deal with it yourself instead of trying to be exclusionary.

    You’ve apparently decided that every straight person will inherently ruin the queerness and safety of the space just by existing in it, even if they’re totally supportive. I disagree and will not be excluding my allies, thank you very much.

    The nice thing about explicitly gay bars is that if I see a cute guy, it’s ok for me to go offer to buy them a drink and if they say something hateful, I can go find an employee and tell them someone unwelcome is in our space.

    My straight friends are a part of my support network and if I want to bring them to a gay bar, I’m going to. Your issues are your own, go talk to a therapist.

    There will always be ignorant idiots who come to gay spaces and behave badly. If you want to keep them safe, be part of the overall system that makes those types of people feel unwelcome.

    There is work to be done to defend our explicitly gay spaces, but it’s in the trenches, excluding those who deserve it and welcoming our allies with open arms.