So sorry your mom behaved like that. Mine would say “Oh you got birthday money from grandpa? Here, I’ll save it for you” and of course when I wanted it back, she would get bent out of shape yelling that she had given me life and she wasn’t expecting anything in return So why should I. Awful all around.

I never thought about this topic like this. FWIW I’ve done both. Always got financial help (Dad payed for my car, stuff that was not covered by scholarships, vacation, extra curricular classes or interests, etc.) and then when he lost his job I helped financially for a bit while he got up on his feet again. I miss him everyday ❤️

Thanks! Some titles here caught my eye.

Last week my kid’s mare got spooked by a plastic bag while said kid was riding her. They never flinched and everything was under control in a few seconds but you bet I was unable to breath while watching from afar.

Oh I’ve been there too! Read about it while planning my pregnancy. It made me feel so paranoic that I got the test done twice just in case. I never got sick with it, but paranoia was a removed.

Since then I have gotten mental health help to deal with anxiety etc.

Elfen Lied

I wish the person who laid down the stone paths you just described could read what you so beautifully wrote about their special place.

She was selected and placed there as a mere puppet of current president amlo. México is indeed a narco governement but people who don’t actuallly experience it first hand living it every day think that this facade is true. She was married to a guy who was investigated for embezzlent but got off the hook because of political contacts. Her father was a chemist who owned a solvent factory (he has passed away and she inherited the business) with very sketchy practices regarding toxic waste management. Factory is still hers and it still operating under the same principles.

You sure are a pb&jelly connoiseur! I like your comments about the different kinds of jellies, jam, etc. I have never tried prickly pear but it sounds delicious. My personal favorite is passion fruit jam but I also like red currant jelly.

I am not a biologist but could you please share the name and author of the book? Sounds liek something I’d enjoy TIA

Ooh sweet baby fly high! You were the best girl ❤️

I don’t know about nerdy enough but I found “The song of Achilles” by Madeline Miller so romantic! We all know the story of Achilles of course, but I found this book very refreshing because the one speaking is Patroclus. Beautiful ending.

It would be lovely to have a chance to experience hiking/ backpacking like this!

Thanks for sharing your recipe, they sound delicious and just perfect for an upcoming camping trip.

He is a demagogue through and through, all his term has been a joke and he has been fluffed up by his minions telling him what a wonderful man he is. Barf!

@Mr_Blott thanks for the Chalk Man suggestion I am half way through it and have loved it so far.

After I quit smoking, I wanted to do something with my hands so I bit my nails until it hurt.

Crochet was/ is something I can do with my hands and at the end I get a cool hat or a nice scarf. Yarn gets expensive, tho.

Whoa! Lots of assumptions there, pal. Projection much?

I never said it was cheating or a shortcut, that was all you. I never said people like you should die. You do you and good if it has worked so far, but that does not mean that it is going to work for every single person who gets this suggested by their doctor.

That does not mean that every person getting this surgery comes out of it scot free forever, look at the data. Sorry to burst your bubble.

Calling me judgemental is not te flex you think it is.

Carry on.

Sources:

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Thereaux J , Lesuffleur T, Czernichow S, Basdevant A, Msika S, Nocca Det al.  Long-term adverse events after sleeve gastrectomy or gastric bypass: a 7-year nationwide, observational, population-based, cohort study. Lancet Diabetes Endocrinol2019

Johansson K , Svensson PA, Soderling J, Peltonen M, Neovius M, Carlsson LMSet al. Long-term risk of anaemia after bariatric surgery: results from the Swedish Obese Subjects study. Lancet Diabetes Endocrinol2021

Saad RK , Ghezzawi M, Habli D, Alami RS, Chakhtoura M. Fracture risk following bariatric surgery: a systematic review and meta-analysis. Osteoporos Int2022

Scarpellini E , Arts J, Karamanolis G, Laurenius A, Siquini W, Suzuki Het al. International consensus on the diagnosis and management of dumping syndrome. Nat Rev Endocrinol2020

Ostlund MP , Backman O, Marsk R, Stockeld D, Lagergren J, Rasmussen Fet al. Increased admission for alcohol dependence after gastric bypass surgery compared with restrictive bariatric surgery. JAMA Surg2013

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Yes, but also that weightloss from bariatric surgery comes with many unhealthy side effects:

Dumping; calcium, Iron, folate, vitamin A, B1,B12,D malabsortion; malnutrition, ulcers, refractory late dumping; increased risk of postoperative abuse of alcohol; depression; anxiety; increased mortality from suicide (so much for decreased mortality for not being fat anymore); more risk of colorectal cancer; Barret’s oesophagus (premalignant condition for oesophageal adenocarcinoma), etc.

So how come this is healthier for someone? Is it a case or choosing a poison? How come anesthesia is a risk for life saving surgeries for fat people but that risk evaporates when it comes to bariatric procedures? So which is it? “We want you thinner” or “We want you healhy”?