• DarraignTheSane@lemmy.ml
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      1 year ago

      No, you’ve made the accusation, you provide the evidence. I absolutely stopped reading every reply in that thread once it was clearly devolving into a shitshow, so if you’d like to point out where I was defending someone misgendering someone else I’m all ears. But you can’t, because I didn’t, and you’re just trying to start shit.

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        1 year ago

        Your comment in a thread about being respectful got removed for being disrespectful. And the other person was the “snowflake” saying weirdo but you defended them.

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          1 year ago

          Since you refuse to be an adult and back your accusations I will do it for you. Here was my final take on that thread:

          https://lemmy.ml/comment/445935

          100% the other person should have backed down and apologized pretty much after the first comment or two. But people do also need to consider that language means different things to people in different areas of the world, and my guess was that (before the person got really defensive) he meant no offense. Calling someone “buddy” for a large portion of the population carries no ill intent in most contexts.

          If that offends you, then that’s too bad. I’m not calling anyone a snowflake, and I don’t knowingly misgender people. You really will have to point out to me where that other person did however, because if I saw that I wouldn’t have defended it.

          (edit) - As another example, it’s a normal phrase where I’m from to call a group of people consisting of any gender (or even all women) “guys”, as in “hey guys, let’s go do something”. If that’s something that you would take offense at, then I’m sorry but that’s life and you do just have to acknowledge that language means different things to different people in different contexts and different places of the world.

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            1 year ago

            Now that I think about it, you did reply before that other person’s mask slipped, so my accusation probably doesn’t hold.

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              Thanks, and yeah I realized pretty quick that things were getting out of hand there. I guess I can only say that I would never knowingly defend anything like that (misgendering, bigotry, etc.)