Welcome to the Melbourne Community Daily Discussion Thread.
This post is brought to you by Bot #001. Learning the days is really hard. I’m so worn out I can barely tell my 1s from by 10s. So today will be a day of rest.
I just wanted to reiterate how nice it is to not be feeling hurt/pain about my break up anymore, I’m sure there will be moments but I’m just feeling so overall positive and happy. I’m feeling ready to put myself out there and start dating again and just go with the flow.
I’m super proud of how much healing and learning I’ve done in the last year, I’ve changed so much and definitely for the better. I’ve made more friends, I work hard to prioritise my social life and to keep those relationships going so that an actual relationship is just a supplement to my life.
I’m excited to get my adhd assessment done and my diagnosis soon and to keep learning. I’ll head back to therapy once I have my tax return and just keep trying to make some positive steps to be my best.
And on the seventh day, Our Lord God the Bot #001 dutifully ran its code and then ran off with the cat.
This neck pain is getting worse again and doing me in. A friend recommended a physio that does Sundays and I’ve pulled the pin and made a booking first thing in the morning. I’ve never seen a physio before. Not like I have stacks of money to do this but it’s affecting everything and next week will be very hectic so I’m not going to sit around waiting for it to get better
I saw a physio when I was low on money for neck issues and it was soo worth it. Every now and then I get pain again and the same prescribed exercises and self massage work to fix it.
Yeah it’s definitely helped today. Not a one shot fix but I can at least get some things done again. Also I have a ridiculous amount of tension in my shoulders from being stressed out, no shit…
That doesn’t good. At first I thought you sort of just strained it by leaning to one side or something but this sounds like next level pain.
If you the pull something you need to let it rest and take pain relief and you shouldn’t work the muscles.
Hopefully the physio can advise you better.
Yeah there’s a very specific spot where the pain is the worst, it’s not super bad but it’s just uncomfortable enough that I can’t stay in one position for too long. I’ve had to stay at my place for tonight despite the cat because I need a night of sleep in a bed I’m used to. Fell asleep on the couch for four hours but…
Used a random burst of 5am energy to finish 50% of an assignment for the Cert IV Training & Assessment course I’ve put on pause now that I’ve switched over to the diploma in OHS.
Trying to do 2 assignments in 2 different courses while changing to a new job was overwhelming and I just shutdown over the past 8 weeks and did nothing except survive.
But in the past 24 hours I’ve completed 1 OHS assignment and now 50% of this one is done
Feel like I’m coming out the other side finally.
Well done surviving! Great work this morning, be such a relief to feel like you’re over the hump.
Getting past a mental hurdle like that is a massive relief.
Looking forward to thriving instead of just surviving
We’re having chicken nuggets and cake for dinner and nobody’s complaining.
SELF-CARE SUNDAY
What have we all got planned for our self-care Sunday routine?
I’ve been to sauna for the weekly sweat sesh. Currently sitting with my Sky & Sand clay mask on. And next up is my Maui hair mask.
Then time for a luxurious everything shower featuring my apricot body scrub.
Will do some reading today and listening to some blues music on PBS later.
My aim today is to make a cake. It will be a vanilla cake with lemon curd and cream in the middle and icing sugar sprinkled on top.
And a dinosaur?
Not sure about that one
You know you want to
That’s unreal. It’s sort of what I’m visioning.
It was chilli choc tequila. Very fudgy. Somewhere on the web
Wow. Interesting. Brb
I have dinosaur sprinkles! And tiny bones!
(Sister is an archaeologist with a dino fetish. Wedding cake decoration leftovers)
That’s pretty cool.
Sounds like heaven
Outstanding
Yum yum yum. Can I have a slice? Hehe
Yes you can.
Yay. You’re the best!
I’m going to tidy my flat and do some writing. Maybe build a model of a lorikeet
Clean house is a double whammy for clearing the mental clutter at the same time. Good one.
Curious about the lorikeet. Post results if you end up making it
Currently out for a walk to get a coffee. I had to cancel my gym membership because they kept putting the price up, so I’ve got my ankle weights on to make it a little harder. When I get back home I’m gonna do a little workout, have the evening shower and then read until we’ve got to go to a friend’s for dinner
Perfect blend of chill self-care that’s good for the body and the mind and some working out to get rid of any residual nasties from the past week
Went to a physio for the first time in my life. It was alright. Sad that I need
a professional to tell me that on a physical level I really need to take more time off because the body is holding a lot of stress.I definitely need to be frugal but decided I’d treat myself to a coffee nearby. And I went with my instincts to Eden Espresso - turns out I’ve been here before. I love this place, it’s so cozy and friendly and not like a lot of the other stuck up “brunch” places around Malvern. One of the staff recently had a baby and there’s a basic-ass a4 printout in Calibri saying “it’s a boy” with a photo of the grinning dad and I just love that enough regulars care that they’ve put it there. In fact some old nannas are asking him right now how the kid is going (“growing like a weed”) and whether he’s sleeping through the night (“yes, surprisingly”). It’s so wholesome.
Frustratingly I have work to catch up on today from zoning out on Thursday and Friday due to stress, (and Wednesday from Huge Psych Session), but I’m definitely planning a day of sick leave for next Wednesday when I’ve cleared out my current backlog.
Definitely need to schedule in some more self care in there to cut through the work, tension, and worries.
Can you get a walk or some meditation in there?
Tbh personally I’m not a fan of dropping in meditation like it’s a cheese toastie or doing the washing, it’s got a lot more meaning and context for me growing up in the Buddhist tradition (but also associated with memories of shame for not “doing it right”). Not a go at you at all Smeg but it’s just not something I can “do” like that even though I’m fully cognisant of all the benefits of simply being more present.
It’s a shitty day for a walk, but what I’ll be doing today for myself is sowing the pea seeds I soaked overnight and some journalling about how I’m moving on and away from work stress: writing out all the shit I’m good at, writing down what to talk to one of my work seniors tomorrow (I’ve scheduled a confidential chat with him to go over what’s stressing me out), and a list of things to start looking into when I cut down my work hours.
I’ll be heading back to my friend’s place with the cat tonight and this time I’ll be chilling out with one of my hugely overdue library books instead of being on the phone
That’s a little bit too much for me to unravel TBH even with your mentioning it’s not directed at me.
Just take care of yourself in how your approach your day and line it with some compassion and care for yourself in whatever it is you do to look after yourself today.
Sorry Smeg, you’re right, went a bit off kilter there. I get set off a bit sometimes on that topic, sometimes the suggestion of meditation gets a bit unintentionally “toxic positivity” esque, but it’s hard to explain to others without the cultural context. I need to remember this is just a friendly space and not a therapy couch.
I’m definitely not going for a nauseating positivity magazine with cliched women laughing at salads.
Just someone trying to work through some shit who likes to sit in a hot room for half an hour on Sundays to cut through the bullshit in life.
Definitely a YMMV moment.
I believe in taking care of myself, and a balanced diet and a rigorous exercise routine. In the morning, if my face is a little puffy, I’ll put on an ice pack while doing my stomach crunches. I can do a thousand now. After I remove the ice pack, I use a deep pore cleanser lotion. In the shower, I use a water activated gel cleanser. Then a honey almond body scrub. And on the face, an exfoliating gel scrub. Then apply an herb mint facial mask, which I leave on for 10 minutes while I prepare the rest of my routine. I always use an aftershave lotion with little or no alcohol, because alcohol dries your face out and makes you look older. Then moisturizer, then an anti-aging eye balm followed by a final moisturizing protective lotion.
pfft only a thousand crunches.
Come through, Patrick Bateman
Do you like Phil Collins?
How about a Tom Collins?
Now let’s see Paul Allen’s card…
I am dyeing my hair today! I am so excited. Haven’t refreshed colours in ages. Purple locks, watch out!
You saucy minx! Bet it will look amazing 🤩
Ahaha it might not be super visible as I’m not bleaching my roots anymore, but the ends are still light from about 8months ago the last time I did it. But I will feel so much happier. I’ve currently got the dye in, and I’m watching B99 from the kitchen table while it sets.
hammock. fire. reading. wine. snooze. cricket.
Solid day really
im rarely this productive, so feeling proud. If I can work up the energy, I might add in a spell in the bath.
Tidy flat, cleaning. Washing is drying in the dryer. Mate might visit. Self care sounds good, might get some epsom salts and do another mask / bath plus use my nice skin care I’m saving cos less income. Walk to the beach will be in there somewhere also. I love the sea air from the waterfont at st kilda. The bay is not quite like bass straight like where i used to live, but I always had to drive there. Now it’s 7 minutes walk and it’s still beautiful clean air.
Epsom salt baths are the best. And such a cheap option when you buy the home brand one. You’ll be all the better for it
Beach visuals/air in the day sounds amazing. I’m like that with getting up to the mountains.
7 minute walk is a winner 🏆
Yeah, gonna be great in summer as crowded as st kilda beach gets, the water will still be cold.
Imagine being one of the bold ones who goes for a dip in this weather 🥶
A fair few do the sauna at the st kilda baths then go in. Apparently quite invigorating.
I realised how much I love the beach since I started water walking.
Someplace within reasonable walking distance of the beach is definitely one the wishlist for the next place.Yeah I still pinch myself when I walk there as it’s almost on the doorstep. The south end streets of st kilda around the botanic gardens are all very nice to walk around too. It feels very old time with established trees and a quiet serene kind of vibe.
Going to work on my Lego backlog with the kid. BOM is forecasting a cold and miserable day today.
Was in a Lego store yesterday. Disappointed how much of it is franchised things rather than free build. Old person grumpfph.
The Lego originals are pretty impressive these days. The Ideas and Creator range.
I love that there’s enough Lego action for there to be a backlog
I’m running out of display space. So many sets packed away both built and unbuilt.
Time to turn the house into a Lego museum
Today on Hoarders Australia…
As nice as Hongohones’ idea of a beachwalk sounds, I am definitely feeling too tired and my jaw too achy. But I do want to get back to the beachwalks.
Will tackle more of the cross-stitching with more podcast(s), then a shower with the new shampoo and some of the coffee body scrub I’ve had for ages but never used sounds good. Will try a face mask later.Which coffee scrub is it?
Beanbody - picked it up a couple of years ago and never used it. Time to remedy that!
I will be watching my Geelong cats play and just chilling. I’m going to make a small cup of coffee so I’m not up all night.
I’ve just had my peanut butter toast so I’m already in self care mode.
Controversial topic alert.
Do you add butter first or just go in with the PB?
Oohhh I hope this doesn’t out me but only peanut butter, nothing else!
Good man!
Exercise. Also I was inspired by you lovely people to put on a face mask. It’s not a real facemask; I’ve got a cleanser which doubles as a facemask if you leave it on a bit longer. Then most of the day will be spent relaxing and getting ready for school and work.
Definitely feeling like face masks are a winner.
Something about smooth skin makes us all feel like a million bucks.
Prepping for the week is a good one. Prevention of morning hustle is a massive favour for future you
A face mask is probably what I can manage today. I’m dead tired, username totally checks out as I have some health conditions that require iron infusions every so often and I’m due for another one, so my energy is low.
I feel that. I get that and vitamin b shots.
Face masks are definitely where it’s at. A good 15 minutes and you’re touching your smooth face all day
Mini Peelers and I baked a walnut loaf with the walnuts we bought from the farmers market. It’s the first time we’ve ever made one so we’re calling it a success!
Picture shows partially sliced loaf shaped cake on a white square plate.
Yuuuuuup. I’m gonna need to confiscate that. For, uh, testing purposes. Gonna need to make sure it’s not poisoned.
That looks so good!! Give my congrats to the Mini-Peelers! It looks scrumptious 🤤
Well done Peelers. I can imagine a slather of butter. Oooooo yuuuuummmm.
Several people brought small children (and one baby) to see the almost 3 hour, very loud Mission Impossible. They were predictably loud almost immediately during every semi quiet scene and no efforts were made to quiet them.
People… what a bunch of bastards. I need to remember to go see movies at obscure hours on weekdays.
I spent a good chunk of yesterday making a vanilla slice to take to dinner at mr. Omoikiri’s friend’s house tonight. Cut it all up, arranged it back in the tray. As we were running out the door, I asked him to grab the slice that was on the kitchen bench while I grabbed his drinks and my bag. Got to the front door and he’s got the slice alright. He’s also got his switch and his volleyball and his keys chucked in top of it, squashing the custard out of half of them and ruining the icing on the others.
He’s lucky he’s so hot because it took every bit of my self control to not dump his ass right on the spot.
Ooohh that could have been a dead man walking right there.
Make sure you never ask him to buy bread or eggs. You just know what’ll happen.
Is he still alive?
What a rotter! Make him replicate them to understand the error.
Hey Bot #001. Thanks for showing up tonight. I’m going to bed soon. No cricket. Very sad :(
Yeah. Was a real bummer tonight. I put in a movie instead and playing games for the night.
I had nap and everything to prepare for a long night.
It’s gotten so long with the rain that it’s now highway patrol on or RBT or something on tv.
you missed some cricket. it ws still pretty sad.
All out for 224. Oh no.
Restorative soup well underway. Wishes available for those who choose to try their luck.
Sonic Health appointment for my Disability Support Pension application is on Monday.
I know it’s not a common point of failure but I’ve been dreading it since they booked it. What if I fuck it up? The dread is problematic. Haven’t been able to focus on anything. Just want it to be over and done with. Even a rejection before this step would have been easier.
It’s totally okay to feel anxious. Try to breathe deep and slow, it’ll be okay. Be honest and it ought to work out.
Im sorry you’re stressed out right now. Sending good vibes friend
It’s very rare to be rejected at this stage. Centrelink have already decided you have 20 points in one table, they’re largely just confirming it. Usually it’s a very short call (<10 mins) with an outcome in 6-8 weeks.
That’s what I’ve heard. But I also have a friend who was rejected at this stage due to the “not fully diagnosed, treated, and stablized” thing. That has changed to reasonably treated now I guess, so maybe that won’t be an issue.
Yeah, that is a single data point though. You’ve got this. :)
Good afternoon all, what comes after the rain? Sunshine! ☀️ hope you all have a fantastic Sunday
At this rate you should be Goddess_Sunshine.
Google Amaterasu and tell me what it says 😉
Lol got it now 😅
Awesomesauce
🤣🤣🤣
☀️☀️☀️
Sunshine lollipops and rainbows everywhere 🌈
Oh hell yeah, gimme those lollipops
Rainbows and crumpets
Can I get pancakes instead?
Certainly. 🥞
Delicious thank you!
My first full-price appointment with my newest therapist is coming up this week. You’d think after 15 sessions I’d be more confident that these sessions were value for money. 🤔
Yayyyyy stress flu incoming. Chills and sore throat. yaaaayyyyy
e: okay I have a feeling I’ll have to call in sick on monday whether I like it or not
Woohoo! Bot is back.
