I’m not bothered by it at all, and I’m not at all curious about what they’re saying about me. I suppose I just trust that if someone has something to say to me, they will. But I’m coming to realize that is somewhat unusual so I am curious about what you experience if you learn about people talking about you?
No, definitely not bothered. But it wasn’t always this way. I was very self-conscious from my teenage years up to the first few years when I started working full-time.
It was only when I started working that I had to learn to deal with it. I was always taking feedback and criticisms very personally and as an introvert, felt extremely down plenty of times.
I taught myself to see things from the perspective and scale of the world - 7 billion people out there, what does it matter that a few people think of what I do, or what I am?
Of course, cutting out social media definitely helped a lot too. I still have my accounts, but have stopped using them actively, at least the ones that expose my personal life.
With social media out of the picture, I was comparing myself to my peers a lot less and spent much more time on productive things instead - learning a new language, skills, picking up new hobbies and all.
It’s not easy, but it is liberating once you figure it out.