Their behaviour is weird and self-contradictory and drag is sick of it!
People constantly ask drag why drag uses neopronouns. And then when drag answers, they get mad about the answer. What gives!?
This person here seems nice, no shade on them, but look at the downvote numbers. Three other people upvoted their accepting comment, saying drag should be dragself. But it looks as though those same three people downvoted drag for explaining drag’s pronouns. So they hate drag for being drag, but they like platitudes and symbolic gestures of acceptance. It doesn’t make any sense.
Drag is wondering whether drag should even explain drag’s pronouns to anyone anymore. Last week, drag got banned from [email protected] for explaining drag’s pronouns. Someone asked, and drag answered their question. Drag didn’t agree with the situation and made a thread on yepowertrippinbastards - https://lemmy.nz/post/15935996 - and most of the people in the thread accused drag of changing the subject to dragself and demanding others use drag’s pronouns. Other people clog up the thread with demanding drag explain themselves, and it’s drag’s fault they asked.
Maybe drag should just ignore people who ask drag to explain drag’s pronouns, or tell them no. But surely the transphobes will get mad at that, too.
Drag thinks maybe the reason they get mad when drag evades, and mad when drag complies, is because they just want a socially acceptable excuse to be mad at drag. They want to manufacture conflict so they can attack the trans person and pretend it’s not about drag’s transness.
I wouldn’t worry too much about getting three down votes. Honestly, those are rookie numbers, and I’m sure as a fellow queer person you’ll get many more for just existing. Which is incredibly sad, but that’s life for you.
Some instances actually specifically disallow downvotes for similar reasons. My home instance doesn’t allow them because brigading has been a problem in the past.
At the end of the day, you can’t ever know exactly why somebody’s downvoted. The question you have to ask then, is “does it matter?”
I’m not saying that to diminish your feelings. It hurts when people are hurtful. But downvoting someone for being different is the refuge of hateful people who are otherwise impotent at effecting change in their own life. It’s sad, miserable, and frankly pathetic.
Consider it another way: if transphobes are seeking to make you feel bad by giving you a thumbs down, then not giving a fuck becomes an act of defiance and a source of strength. Haters gonna hate.
As to your specific question wondering if maybe you should ignore people asking about your pronouns: that’s up to you. You don’t owe anyone an explanation of your identity - particularly not if someone is asking in bad faith.
If someone asks you and you want to tell them “no,” again that’s up to you. But I can practically guarantee you’re going to get downvoted when you could have ignored them.
For what it’s worth, if anybody can’t figure out your pronouns from the context of how you talk, that’s kind of on them.