• JasonDJ@lemmy.zip
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    3 months ago

    Conversely, those who have encountered evil have a tendency to overestimate how much evil there actually is.

    See also: PTSD, trust issues, control freaks. Possibly martyr syndrome/victim complex.

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      3 months ago

      Yes. As Bruce Lee says, don’t be tense; be ready.

      The optimal is to recognize that all situations warrant readiness for evil, which doesn’t have to mean actually seeing evil everywhere one goes.

      I carry a knife at all times, because I was jumped by a drunk guy while homeless. He threw me down and kicked my head repeatedly until others pulled him off me. He did it because I asked him if he could spare a dollar.

      But the other night, I was sitting at a traffic light. Three people walked by, two men and a woman. They were all giving me hostile stares.

      I rolled down my window and said “Do you guys have a problem with me?” and they just said “No you’re just so cute”. The guys were gay I guess.

      Realized I broke the rule of being ready, but not tense.

      I appreciate your reminder, too.