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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/Grandiaplayer on 2023-08-26 00:42:19+00:00.

Hello all you cool folks. First time posting in this sub and I’ll get right into it. For about a week now, my GF of 7 years (male here) has been very distant and sometimes not even coming home at all. We got some of the stuff out in the air on Tuesday and I thought we were a little tense but okay. The next day, she’s gone all day, as well as Thursday and today. Last night (Thursday night), she came home about 4. I didn’t wake up until 5 and I saw her in bed, awake, when I woke up. We started talking and got a lot out in the open.

Basically, I asked if she wanted me “out of her way” and she said “not when you put it like that”. I asked how else I should put it and she said that I make it sound like I’m burden. I asked if I was burden and she didn’t answer. We talked more and I asked why she’s been away and if it’s something I’m doing. She says no and that she just really enjoyed being on her own for once. I definitely understand this but I asked why she didn’t just tell me she needed some time alone or space, but she didn’t answer that either.

I ask one more question: Does she want me to leave (I currently stay with her) and she says no. I then say “You don’t want to be around me but you don’t want me to leave? What do you want me to do?” She says she’s not sure but she doesn’t want me to leave and just needs some time. I ask if we’re taking a break and she says she doesn’t know. We say a bit more and I ask again why she’s been away for the past week. She says “Because I love you so much that this hurts.” I ask what she means (I’m sorry, I feel like I should know what she meant but I didn’t) and she doesn’t answer that either. We talk for a bit more but basically go in circles and I then go to work after saying “I’ll be here when you done and go ahead and be you.”

Did I screw it up or is there potentially a recovery here? And feel free to let me have it in the comments. I deserve whatever is coming my way.

Edit: We spoke tonight, went for a walk, and took a drive and got a lot of what was bothering her out in the open. A small bit of it was her misreading what I was doing and saying. More of it was small things here and there that I used to do but don’t do anymore and other things that were pushing her away. I also didn’t realize she only had 15 minutes of sleep in the last 48 hours and she said she may have been rash or quick to make it because of the lack of sleep. I did see a lot of people saying there was another person but there wasn’t. She was at her sister’s house for the entire week she wasn’t home.

P.S. Thank you to everyone who commented and took the time to read this. There were some genuine diamonds in the comments and I responded to them directly.