Sounds like you are already doing all the right things but there’s a book called ‘letting go’ by Charlie Corke that talks about death planning. Read it a while back but I remember it had some really good practical advice and was not too heavy to read.
Even better the library has that as an e-book, I have downloaded it now. I’m currently re-reading “Avoiding the aging parent trap” by Brian Herd which is by a lawyer specialising in elder law that has a lot of good information in it.
I think researching and planning is my go-to coping strategy, having a good plan in place always makes me feel better. The hard bit will be all the family discussions around it. I always worry about what reaction I’m going to get and fret about what could go wrong, but so far all the talks we have had have gone well so I probably shouldn’t worry so much.
Oh I 100% understand (both about the research-as-coping-mechanism) and fear around discussions. You can only try (and understand it might take a few goes)
Sounds like you are already doing all the right things but there’s a book called ‘letting go’ by Charlie Corke that talks about death planning. Read it a while back but I remember it had some really good practical advice and was not too heavy to read.
Edit. And hugs. This is tough stuff
Even better the library has that as an e-book, I have downloaded it now. I’m currently re-reading “Avoiding the aging parent trap” by Brian Herd which is by a lawyer specialising in elder law that has a lot of good information in it.
I think researching and planning is my go-to coping strategy, having a good plan in place always makes me feel better. The hard bit will be all the family discussions around it. I always worry about what reaction I’m going to get and fret about what could go wrong, but so far all the talks we have had have gone well so I probably shouldn’t worry so much.
Oh I 100% understand (both about the research-as-coping-mechanism) and fear around discussions. You can only try (and understand it might take a few goes)