• HopeOfTheGunblade@kbin.social
      142·
      6 months ago

      Depends on where you start. My mental state was pretty fucked before, and while I can’t say my self confidence is amazing, you shoulda seen it then. Definitely not for everyone, tho.

    • Madlaine@feddit.de
      53·
      6 months ago

      Baby-Transfem here, started HRT literally last week:

      Until last friday I was suicidal, constantly depressed and full of self-hate I couldn’t understand.

      Since I got my first dose estrogen my mental health drastically improved (as did some other hormone-related body functions that only need the hormones in my blood but not necessarily a prolonged exposure).

      I learned from my doc that some transpersons have a brain structure of their non-assigned sex and then show exactly my pattern of relief; meaning my brain was actually born to be estrogen- instead of testosterone-dominated. (which seems to be based on the hormones oned mom exposed one during 3-4th and 10-14th week of infancy. One periods influences the gender of the brain, the other the sex of the general body)

      So while I see where you are coming from, and I heavily prepare myself for all the sexism that will probably bring me back to earth as soon as I visually feminize; I can attest that HRT improved both drastically for me (for now)

    • CheesyCheese1 [She/her]@lemmy.caOP
      253·
      6 months ago

      I think the person who made this list did not grow up as a girl.

      Are you trying to argue that us trans women aren’t real women you disgusting pig?

      • MentalEdge@sopuli.xyz
        20·
        6 months ago

        You are on a hair trigger, friend. No one’s trying to reject you or hurt you.

        Your meme didn’t land with some of us, that doesn’t make you any less valid.

        The meme implies the list of benefits simply comes with being a woman, not just from transitioning as a trans person.

        If you’re trans, every step of transitioning to your real gender is a real improvement to your life and health.

        But if you’re not trans, or are trans, but FtoM or just look at it a little different…

        The meme is rubbing people the wrong way because it mixed up the improvements that come from transitioning as a trans person, with being a woman being better than being a man.

        If you were assigned male and transitioned or started transitioning to female, of course your life and health will be better!

        But you accidentally implied being a woman automatically solves a bunch of problems that women absolutely can and do still have, and that the problems men have are caused by them being men.

  • Asherah@lemmy.world
    563·
    6 months ago

    This gives a very specific kind of trans woman vibe and I don’t think I like it. I think it’s the “angry masculine mannerisms” that is bothering me. Masc / butch trans women exist too, and it feels weird to imply only men get angry. This seems to simplify and put into a box what being a trans woman is.

    Edit: also HRT affects everyone differently and to act like it makes everyone cute and small and feminine is misleading. Being trans is exhausting sometimes and takes a lot of work, and some may never fit this description regardless of how hard they try.

    Edit 2: I’m a trans woman myself and I’m nearly 99% sure OP is just a troll at this point. If not, she’s seriously making herself look like a moron.

      • Asherah@lemmy.world
        393·
        6 months ago

        Thanks for assuming I’m fucking cis and not a fellow fucking trans woman. Fuck you and fuck your stupid, demeaning “meme”. Fucking jerk.

          • Asherah@lemmy.world
            282·
            6 months ago

            I really hope you’re just an elaborate troll and not being serious. If you are being serious, seek professional help. If you’re just a shitty troll pretending to be trans to try to make us look bad, then truly, sincerely, go fuck yourself. 🥰

            • AgentOrangesicle@lemmy.world
              79·
              6 months ago

              I understand not vibing with the brand of humor, but y’all are coming on a little strong to each other. I get the misportrayal of masculinity being an issue. This just escalated quickly.

              • Asherah@lemmy.world
                191·
                6 months ago

                If she hadn’t gone from 0 to 100 because of my very light criticism then maybe I’d be a bit more friendly. Her reaction set me off and I know I’m not in the wrong here. Fucking claiming I’m a cis man is a good way of pissing me the fuck off.

              • Asherah@lemmy.world
                192·
                6 months ago

                I’m in a long term committed relationship with another woman. But go off about how I’m somehow a “pick me”. At least I’m not the one telling gender non-conforming trans women that they aren’t “real women” because they might be more masc than your ideal 100% fem and perfect trans woman. 🙄 I’ve also seen your other comments and my gosh you reek of transmed bullshit. You truly don’t understand the damage you are doing by posting dumb shit like this and it’s depressing as fuck.

      • riodoro1@lemmy.world
        132·
        6 months ago

        So far it seems youre just trying to be annoying. If you didn’t want anyone to tell you anything you could’ve just kept your meme to yourself.

  • Cano@lemm.ee
    501·
    6 months ago

    Counterpoint: I can do the helicopter with my dick

  • rustyfish@lemmy.world
    483·
    6 months ago

    Ability to wear adorable clothes

    I already do that. No reason for transitioning.

    Fuck social norms.

    Fuck the police.

    And fuck you.

    aggressively flings fluffy scarf over the shoulder

    • CheesyCheese1 [She/her]@lemmy.caOP
      164·
      6 months ago

      I never understood how people get so stuck in-denial, I mean ask yourself, is there really something so wrong with being a girl. Really what is so bad abut that to you that you’ll intentionally and repeatedly deny who you are to yourself? I wish you luck sis and I hope you can come out to yourself and be happy one day.

        • CheesyCheese1 [She/her]@lemmy.caOP
          144·
          6 months ago

          This person is clearly in-denial, I’m not saying they should or shouldn’t be anything, it’s just obvious they aren’t entirely cis if you catch my drift.

            • CheesyCheese1 [She/her]@lemmy.caOP
              235·
              6 months ago

              Don’t compare cracking someone’s egg to conversion therapy, they are not the same, cracking people’s eggs saves lives, it frees them from denial and allows them to be happy as their authentic self. Conversion therapy tries to force people deeper into denial. This is such a rotten and transphobic argument.

              • SkyezOpen@lemmy.world
                161·
                6 months ago

                You are not the arbiter of who is or is not trans. You are free to help someone come to the realization that they may be trans, but do not invalidate their identity in the process.

                Gender expression is a spectrum, and just because someone isn’t 100% gender conforming doesn’t automatically make them trans.

                • CheesyCheese1 [She/her]@lemmy.caOP
                  125·
                  6 months ago

                  It is not invalidating their identity it is helping discover who they really are, helping them come out of the egg and break the denial that prevents them from being their most legitimate selves.

              • FarmTaco@lemmy.world
                141·
                6 months ago

                right its so much different when its your opinion you are attempting to bend people to instead of one you disagree with

                • CheesyCheese1 [She/her]@lemmy.caOP
                  124·
                  6 months ago

                  Conversion therapy is transphobia, transphobia isn’t an opinion, calling transphobia an opinion is like calling arsenic a flavor. I’m not trying to bend anyone to anything, I’m just pointing out that they’re dressing like a girl, and acting like a girl, put two and two together and you can see where that’s going. Is this really that hard for people to understand?

              • AVincentInSpace@pawb.socialEnglish
                4·
                6 months ago

                Not everyone is trans, homesicle. If I take a long hard look at my gender and decide that I’m happier as the man I was born than as a woman, that’s my business. Trying to force me into a female body would make me just as miserable as your male one was for you.

                Also I couldn’t help but notice that you seem to conflate anger as a concept with masculinity.

          • Madlaine@feddit.de
            11·
            6 months ago

            In another comment you clearly stated that femboys are not the same thing as trans.

            And now you want to push the transfem label onto a non-afab person just because they admit to wear gender-non-conforming clothes?

            • CheesyCheese1 [She/her]@lemmy.caOP
              129·
              6 months ago

              No I said we aren’t femboys, we are women. If someone claims to be a boy and dresses fem it’s clear they aren’t entirely cis, if they were such act would give them unbelievable gender dysphoria and discomfort.

              • SkyezOpen@lemmy.world
                151·
                6 months ago

                You just singlehandedly invalidated the gender identity of every cis drag queen. That’s impressive.

              • Madlaine@feddit.de
                61·
                6 months ago

                This is a meme about trans women, please don’t conflate us with femboys.

                Sounds for me like:

                “femboys exist, but we are not the same”; not “femboys do not exist. They’re just in denial”

                (and I do agree with the first; not with the second)

          • Honytawk@lemmy.zip
            91·
            6 months ago

            You keep trying to push a narrative, but it just isn’t working.

            Nobody is falling for your crap.

            I’d ask you to go back to Reddit, but Lemmy has this neat feature to block trolls.

      • monk@lemmy.unboiled.info
        2·
        6 months ago

        Sure, you can jump gender if you feel like it, but you’re replying to a person who transcended those silly boundaries without immediately constraining themselves to a different one. I suspect they are next level happy.

        • CheesyCheese1 [She/her]@lemmy.caOP
          16·
          6 months ago

          They are constraining themselves to a gender though, they’re stuck in the idea that they have to be a man because they were born male. That’s not true though, people can be a woman regardless of what they were born as. They say they’re happy now but they would be so much happier if they stopped limiting themselves and realized they can live comfortably as a woman.

          • monk@lemmy.unboiled.info
            12·
            6 months ago

            I don’t know why am I trying to get to you, but you’re figuratively convincing an ambidextrous person to force themselves being a leftie.

            Being stuck in the wrong box must be awful, but not everyone likes being constrained to boxes.

  • Loki@discuss.tchncs.de
    39·
    6 months ago

    This reads as casually sexist towards both men and women. Agression? Luscious hair? This isn’t really a meme, this is just “man bad, (idealised) woman good”, that’s neither funny nor relatable

  • SuiXi3D@fedia.io
    445·
    6 months ago

    So, like, I literally don’t care if someone identifies as whatever gender. You do you.

    Just don’t tell me how to do me.

    • TrousersMcPants@lemmy.world
      212·
      6 months ago

      Yeah, “angry, masculine mannerisms” sounds kind of shitty. I’m very happy for anyone who can express themselves as their own chosen gender but we don’t need to put down others.

    • Madlaine@feddit.de
      1·
      6 months ago

      (un)fortunately HRT does not remove your beard ;)

      Wanna be a beautiful girl with a wonderful shiny beard?

      There is a chance!

      (Altho having specific physical goals in mind on HRT is more a gamble; and obviously (unfortunately, but it is what it is) a beard on a girl will often lead to weird looks and remarks.)

  • LostWanderer@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
    183·
    6 months ago

    The same thing could be achieved by self reflection, developing emotional intelligence, and doing the work to improve as a man! That way hostile masculine feelings can be calmed.

    Nothing wrong with becoming a cute girl if that’s what will bring you gender euphoria.

  • UnfortunateShort@lemmy.world
    154·
    6 months ago

    You know, I fully support converting everyone into fem- and or tomboys, but this is really more of a shitpost than a meme and I hope you can see why it’s not exactly received well in c/memes