Been homeless over 6 years. My social services agency, high turnover. Being female , almost all my case managers have been female, standard practice.

Out of 17 case managers, only 2 have been male. Female cms: detailed, logical, responsive, solution oriented, clear effective communication. Male cms, the opposite.

I try to communicate clearly, effectively, which is easy cuz autism, and the 2 male cms, i get constant 2nd guessing, passive-aggressive defensiveness. Get impression they’re automatically assuming I don’t think clearly, don’t know what I’m saying. It’s weird, and I can’t figure out why.

I know not all men are the same. I’m not like all women. Have I just been unlucky with these 2 cms, or is there a gender aspect to this I’m not understanding? I’d like to learn.

  • Venator
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    2 months ago

    I’ve heard it can also be really stressful when they have cases where they don’t have authority or budget to help people because of buerecracy and rules set by politicians etc.

    The result being the only people who survive in the job are people who’re unfazed by that, or learn to cope by not caring, which is probably the case with the two male case workers.