• Nurse_Robot@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    Good for anon for trying to meet new people. Next goals should be different bars, going when events are happening, and going for more than 20 minutes

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      8 months ago

      Don’t go to crazy busy bars, but ones that have a moderate amount of people. Sit at the bar. Bullshit with bartender when they have a moment, usually others will chime in. That’s what I’d do at least ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

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        8 months ago

        Hell, I can’t sit alone at the bar of a modest to moderately busy establishment without getting drug into a conversation. Obviously it depends on the bar and location, but it’s a good way to meet people. Whether they’re people worth meeting is a whole different conversation.

        I prefer going to a bar to drink seriously without distraction, but the kind of bars I go to are apparently big on having everyone join in on the conversation.

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          8 months ago

          Why even go out if you want to “drink seriously without distractions”?

          What a weird take.

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            8 months ago

            That was a little bit tongue in cheek. Look at my username. But I’ll humor the question.

            I don’t like to drink at home because I quickly go from being an affable drunk to a hardcore alcoholic. I like people watching. The noise of a bar can drown out my thoughts so I’m not living in my own head.

            Why do you think you know what’s best for anyone else? Instead of deciding people are weird for being different, maybe you could examine yourself and find out why you’re a judgemental ass when there’s no way you could have all the information on someone else’s life.

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              8 months ago

              Eh, I’m not your therapist. Sounds like you need to work some things out with a professional. Good luck out there.

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                8 months ago

                No one asked you to be. I humored your question. It’s almost like you didn’t really want an answer, you just wanted to be condescending.

                Sounds like you’ve got some things to shove up your ass. Good luck in there.

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    8 months ago

    Meeting people at bars in general is a meme. Loud music and drunk people who won’t remember your name in the morning, why would you think this is a good place to make actual connections?

    The real place (if you want to keep the alcohol theme) is a brewery in the afternoon/evening. Much more laid back atmosphere, and you already have an opener for meeting people, “been here before?” “What do you think of the Sweatibals IPA?,” etc. Not to mention the fact that the crowd at a brewery versus a bar is completely different and usually more welcoming to random, real conservation in my experience.